EMDR Therapy in Farmington, Connecticut
A path toward healing.
Understanding how a personalized EMDR approach can ease even the most painful chapters of your story.
Emotional pain, your brain, and how EMDR intensives can help.
When you go through something deeply painful—fertility struggles, a traumatic birth, a miscarriage—it can linger, feeling raw even long after it has happened. That’s because these experiences are more than just difficult—they are traumatic.
Trauma isn’t just about what you went through. It’s about how your mind and body worked to protect you at the time—and how those protections might still be showing up, even when they’re no longer needed.
Why you feel stuck
When something overwhelming happens, your brain doesn’t always get the chance to process it fully. Instead of being stored as a past event, the memory can feel unfinished, like it’s still happening in some way.
This can look like:
Feeling intense waves of emotion—like panic, grief, or shame—while sitting in a fertility clinic waiting room or hearing someone announce a pregnancy
Avoiding OB/GYN appointments or hospital settings because your body tenses up the moment you walk in
Feeling numb when holding your baby, or going through the motions without feeling connected, and wondering what’s wrong with you
Crying in the car after a baby shower, wondering why you thought you could handle it
Replaying a traumatic birth over and over—wishing someone had listened, wondering if it could have gone differently
Not being able to touch certain parts of your body (like your belly or a scar) without feeling a wave of discomfort or grief
Feeling dread leading up to your due date—or the due date that never came
Telling yourself you should be “over it,” but feeling like the pain is still just beneath the surface
Wanting to try for another baby but freezing in fear at the thought of going through all of it again
Your brain was doing its best to help you. But if your memories are still stuck in survival mode— feeling raw and over activated—they continue to shape how you feel, think, and move through the world.
How EMDR can help rewrite your story
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a research-backed therapy that helps your brain complete the processing it couldn’t do at the time—so the memories no longer hold the same emotional weight.
An intensive helps by…
Shifting patterns of anxiety, shame, or self-blame
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Reducing the emotional intensity of painful memories
Allowing you to process experiences without reliving them
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Helping you feel more grounded and in control
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Supporting your mind and body to finally settle
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For you this may mean….
Addressing the pain without having to talk through every heartbreaking detail
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Regaining a sense of safety in your body
Releasing tension, jumpiness, or shutdown
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Feeling less triggered by appointments, due dates, or things people say without warning
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Letting go of the guilt or “what ifs” that loop in your mind
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EMDR doesn’t erase what happened, and it doesn’t force you to relive the pain. Instead, it helps you integrate those experiences in a way that feels more settled, more whole, and more free.
No matter what you’ve been through, healing is possible. And you don’t have to do it alone.
Tending to the parts of you that had to keep going
When we do EMDR, we’re not pushing past the parts of you that feel unsure, shut down, or overwhelmed. We slow down and listen—because those parts have their own stories to tell.
You might notice that one part of you wants to heal and move forward… but another part still feels stuck in the past, afraid to let go, or just so tired from holding everything together. That’s not something to fix—it’s something to honor.
That’s why I use ego state therapy (sometimes called parts work) with EMDR treatment. Together, we’ll gently get to know these different parts of you. The ones that stepped in to protect you. The ones that carry pain or confusion. The parts that just want relief. When we make space for all parts of you within our EMDR work, healing tends to unfold in a deeper, more grounded way.
Benefits of an Intensive
Comprehensive processing
EMDR goes beyond talk. It helps you think AND feel differently leading to lasting change.
Release stuck feelings
EMDR retrains your brain to recognize the danger is over — helping triggers no longer feel overwhelming.
Faster relief without rushing
Intensives provide an efficient approach, allowing for deeper healing without the wait between sessions.
Strengthen Self-trust
Trauma can disconnects you from your body & intuition. EMDR helps restore confidence in yourself & emotions.
Room for a future
Whether you’re preparing for a pregnancy, redefining your path, or simply wanting peace, EMDR helps you move forward with confidence & clarity.
Save time & money
An intensive reduces the need for months or years of therapy. Fewer sessions mean lower long-term costs and faster relief.
How I Can Help
Everyone’s reproductive story is so personal and unique. If you’re looking for support but don’t quite see your experience reflected above,—you’re still welcome here. Feel free to reach out if you’d like to talk more about how I might be able to support you.