EMDR for loss at any stage
When loss changes everything.
Space for your story; honoring what should have been.
If you’ve found your way to this page, it may be because you’re carrying a loss that feels too big to name—or one the world has overlooked. Here, there’s room for your grief, however it looks, no matter how long it has been.
The unseen weight of reproductive loss
There’s no single story that captures how this kind of loss shapes a person. This kind of loss cuts deep and lives quietly inside you, long after the world has moved on.
Loss in the reproductive journey often feels invisible.
You may have heard phrases meant to comfort you but instead left you feeling misunderstood: "At least it was early." "You can try again." "Everything happens for a reason."
No one sees how the air went still the moment you got the news.
No one knows how the future you were holding in your heart disappeared in an instant, leaving a hollow space behind.
And no one sees how you carry that absence with you everywhere.
The echoes of loss:
Loss doesn't just touch one moment—it ripples outward.
It can quietly shape how you move through your days, how you feel in your body, and how you experience the world around you.
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The kind of grief that lives in your chest, your stomach, your muscles. A heaviness you can’t shake, no matter how much time has passed.
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Even when you know it wasn’t your fault, you may still find yourself wondering: "What if I had done something differently?"
"What if my body hadn't failed me?"
"What if I hadn't failed them?" -
Maybe people stopped checking in. Or maybe they never really knew what to say in the first place.
You might feel like you're carrying a grief no one else understands—a grief that's invisible to the outside world but all-consuming inside of you. -
You may wonder if it will ever feel safe to hope again.
Whether you're trying to conceive again, pregnant after loss, or unsure if you ever want to try—loss can plant a deep fear that something will always go wrong. -
Grief can loop in your mind like a tape on repeat.
The moments you can’t change.
The things you wish you had known.
The life you imagined, always just out of reach.
You are not broken because you are grieving.
Grief is not something to "get over"—especially when the loss is of someone you never got to hold long enough, or at all.
Your grief is proof of your love. Your sadness is proof of your hope. Your anger, your numbness, your longing—all of it is valid.
All of it makes sense.
An EMDR intensive allows for focused, uninterrupted time to work through:
The traumatic memories of loss, including medical procedures, emergency interventions, or distressing moments
The grief that lingers, helping you process the emotional weight without erasing the love or meaning behind your experience
The self-blame and guilt that so often accompany loss shifting towards self-compassion and understanding
The triggers that disrupt daily life, whether it’s seeing pregnancy announcements, navigating medical visits, or being around children
The emotional disconnection or numbness that may have set in as a way to cope
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EMDR therapy can’t erase what happened, and it will never ask you to forget. It can, however, help soften the edges of pain, make space for love alongside loss, and help you breathe again.
