Part 5: What to Expect in an EMDR Intensive Session
This is part 5 of the EMDR intensive series where we will explore what to expect in sessions.
You’ve done so much prep work, and now it’s time to begin your EMDR intensive sessions. If you’re exploring EMDR intensives here’s a clear look at how sessions are structured and what you can expect along the way.
Pre-Intensive Planning Session: Setting the Stage for Healing
Before jumping into the longer sessions, I always begin with a 90-minute pre-intensive planning session. This is usually our first time meeting face-to-face, and it gives us a chance to:
Review the information and patterns you shared in your workbook
Set concrete goals for the upcoming intensive
Explore any fears, questions, or hesitations you may have
Begin practicing grounding and coping techniques you can use during the longer sessions
Some of this time may be dedicated to EMDR-specific skills and some to connecting the dots in your history. The goal is that you walk away with a clear sense of structure and readiness before we meet for the full intensive.
What a 3-Hour EMDR Intensive Session Looks Like
When it’s time for your first 3-hour EMDR intensive, I always remind clients: this isn’t about rushing or cramming in as much as possible. Instead, it’s about giving your mind and body the space and container to go deeper.
Every client’s intensive looks a little different, but your first session may include:
Resource building – strengthening your internal supports
Exploring parts of the self – connecting with different aspects of your experience
Working through defenses – gently attending to the very normal ways we protect ourselves in therapy
Processing specific experiences – beginning to shift the way you think and feel about past events
Most people find that one 3-hour session isn’t enough for lasting change. Realistically, 2–3 extended sessions are what give clients the relief they’ve been seeking.
Common Questions About EMDR Intensive Sessions
Can I take breaks?
Yes! You can pause for the bathroom, snacks, stretching, or simply to catch your breath.
Can I bring snacks?
Absolutely. Bring snacks, a favorite drink, or hard candies—anything that supports your comfort.
What should I wear?
Whatever feels comfortable. This is your time to slow down and settle in—no business casual required.
What should I do after my session?
Plan something gentle. Healing doesn’t stop when the session ends. Many clients enjoy a favorite meal, a nap with their pet, or a walk in nature. When I move into my new New Britain office this November, you’ll even have access to spa services like massage, facials, or energy work—perfect ways to support integration.
Can I take notes?
Yes. You’re welcome to jot things down, and we can also create a summary of key takeaways together.
What if I feel nervous?
That’s normal! It’s okay to name your nerves in session so we can hold them with compassion and curiosity.
After Your Intensive: Supporting Integration
A big part of EMDR intensive work is honoring what comes after. If possible, lighten your responsibilities and give yourself time to rest, reflect, and care for your body. Small, intentional choices—like prepping dinner ahead of time or arranging child care—can make space for your healing to continue long after the session ends.
A Final Word
The opportunity to work deeply in an intensive format is truly a gift—a gift of time, energy, and the chance to experience real relief from what’s been weighing on you.
If you’re considering EMDR intensives in Connecticut, I’d love to help you explore whether this approach is right for you. Together, we can create a space for meaningful change and lasting relief.
Your healing deserves space and support—schedule a consultation to begin your EMDR intensive journey.