EMDR Therapy for inFertility & Birth Trauma | Connecticut
From carrying the weight of the unexpected to reclaiming your story.
For women ready to heal to the parts of their journey that didn’t unfold the way they hoped.
You're strong on the outside, but inside you're shattered.
You're used to working hard and seeing results—in your career, your relationships, your goals. You've always been able to figure things out, push through challenges, make things happen.
But reproductive trauma—infertility, pregnancy loss, birth trauma—has left you feeling heartbroken in ways you never expected. For the first time, your effort doesn't guarantee the outcome. You can't control the negative test, how the birth unfolds, or whether your body responds the way you need it to.
You understand this isn't just about sadness. You know trauma is affecting your daily life, your relationships, your sense of safety in your own body. But understanding it and healing from it are two different things.
You may be holding:
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The monthly cycle of hope and devastation
Invasive procedures that left you feeling violated
Well-meaning comments like "Just relax and it will happen"
Managing everyone else's discomfort with your pain
Scrutinizing every sensation, blaming yourself for what went wrong
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The emergency C-section, the hemorrhaging, feeling out of control
Being told you were "difficult" when you advocated for yourself
The gap between what you expected and what actually happened
Coming home with trauma instead of the peaceful birth you planned
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The ultrasound that showed no heartbeat
The baby who lived for hours or days
Losses that don't fit neat categories but shattered your world
Grief that has no timeline
Carrying a story that has become a weight you bear alone
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Holding your breath in the baby section at Target
Making social media feel like a minefield
Performing "fine" when you're falling apart inside
Memorizing excuses to avoid baby showers
You deserve to feel whole again—not broken, not defined by your body but reconnected to your strength and your worth.
Together, we'll help you heal from the inside out
Process the specific moments that still steal your breath—the ultrasound where everything changed, the moment you realized labor wasn't going as planned, the phone call with devastating news, the silence in the delivery room, the procedure that felt like violence, the anniversary dates that bring it all flooding back.
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Reconnect you with your body as an ally—whether that's trusting it to heal after trauma, appreciating what it's survived, or learning to feel safe in your own skin again.
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Release the shame and self-blame that was never yours to carry—helping your nervous system understand that what happened wasn't your fault, that your choices were made with the information you had, that your body's responses were normal.
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Transform the stories you tell yourself—from "I failed" to "I survived," from "I should have known better" to "I did the best I could," from "I'm broken" to "I'm healing."
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We'll restore your capacity for hope and joy—so you can make decisions about your future from a place of peace rather than desperation, fear, anger.
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This isn’t about “getting over it.” It’s about integrating what’s happened and carrying both grief and love in a way that honors your story.
How we can work together:
Both paths lead to the same destination: feeling like yourself again, but calmer, clearer, and free from the exhausting inner chatter. (Yes you can do a hybrid of both!)
Weekly Therapy
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Regular weekly sessions
Space to process gradually
Flexibility to integrate work into daily life
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Build insight and readiness for deeper intensive work
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Intensive Work
Longer, uninterrupted sessions
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No time constraints to allow deeper work
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Works well adjunctive to other therapies
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Momentum-building and efficient
You don’t have to heal on your own.
Understanding trauma and healing from it are two different things.
EMDR helps bridge that gap.
Frequently Asked Questions
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While traditional talk therapy helps you understand your experiences, EMDR works directly with your nervous system to help your brain and body release stuck trauma responses. This often provides faster, more lasting relief from triggers and intrusive thoughts.
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That's completely understandable and we'll honor wherever you are. EMDR doesn't force hope or positivity. Instead, it helps you process what you've been through so you can make decisions about your future from a clearer, calmer place—whatever those decisions might be.
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Absolutely. Many women find that processing reproductive trauma actually supports their fertility journey by reducing the anxiety and stress that often accompany treatments. EMDR can be particularly helpful for medical trauma that may have developed around procedures
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Reproductive trauma can include many experiences—infertility, pregnancy loss at any stage, traumatic birth, postpartum complications, medical trauma during procedures, pregnancy terminations, stillbirth, or even the trauma of unwanted pregnancy. All of these experiences can benefit from specialized support.
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I had a live baby but the birth was traumatic. Does this still count?
Absolutely. Birth trauma is real and valid regardless of the outcome. Many women struggle with guilt about having trauma when their baby survived, but your experience and feelings matter. Traumatic birth can impact bonding, postpartum recovery, and decisions about future pregnancies.